We can assess an event or outcome from several different perspectives such as from our own perspective, from the perspective of another person and from the perspective of an independent observer which is often very useful. John Grinder and Judith De Lozier referred these perspectives as perceptual position. It provides a balanced approach of thinking about an event or outcome. It gives room for developing new understanding and creating new choices in case where there is little or no understanding or progress.
Let's have an overview on three perceptual positions:
You see, hear, feel the situation through your own eyes, ears and feelings. You think in terms of what is important to you and what you aspire to achieve.
You step into shoes of the other person and experience ( see, hear, feel ) the situation as if you were in that place. In this case you think in terms of how this situation would appear or be interpreted by the other person.
You are a detached observer and you experience it by standing back from a situation. Just like a third person you see, hear and feel yourself and other person in your mind. You think in terms of what observations or advice and what opinion would someone provide who is not involved. Above all you need to be in a strong resourceful state with an objective view of your own behavior and look for a good chance of responding differently in order to get a different and positive result.
Sometimes there is a chance of getting stuck in one of these positions:
Someone who lives in first position would tend to focus on his/ her needs rather than other needs. Their attitude is mostly a self-centered one. Addicts see the world from first position.
Someone who lives their life in second position, always thinks about other person at the expense of their own needs. Addiction situation or co-dependents or enabler in a dysfunctional well suit this description.
Someone who lives their life in third position, is a disinterested observer of life who always look in by being an outsider.
In our daily activities, it is essential to cycle through three position consciously or unconsciously since these positions are of equal importance.
Levels of learning is a simple model which makes us to get know where are we in the progression of learning.a new skill. On our way to mastery we all go through these stages or may stop at some points short of mastery. When we know our level along this progression we get hopes as we see ourselves in the right track.
In NLP learning can be divided into five stages which are as follow:
Unconscious incompetence is a level where we do not know what we do not know. We are not interested in learning the skill as we know a little about the subject or unaware of the subject, we probably overestimate our abilities or underestimate it.
This stage happens at the beginning level mostly in a new endeavor where we get to know that there is a long way to go. In simple words this is a daunting stage where we can decide either to continue or stop it.
This is a stage where we realize that practice, effort and concentration will go in hand to give the best output. We know what we know and by applying what we learn we can yield the best outcome.
This stage is a post-learning. Automatically we do the act or skill without any effort. Once we learn to drive a car, we need not to learn it again as the skill becomes unconscious and directed by our will.
Once the skill is learned well, we produce the state of flow surrounding the performance. Times slows down, feed back and other elements of creativity are woven into the performance of act.